8 Symptoms of Hidden Depression That Everyone Can Experience

People who suffer from hidden depression usually try to talk about philosophical topics using abstract sentences. “Such things always happen to me,” instead of, “I don’t get enough sleep.” “There is no sense in it,” instead of, “I think I need to use another variant.” As a rule, depressed people like to talk about the meaning of life, and they do it all the time. And their words are often abstract and vague. Psychologists say that the more definite a person’s thoughts are, the more chances they have to be happy.

Depressed people often use excuses to hide their real desires and sadness. For example, they compose touching stories about why they can’t go to a friend’s birthday party or why they can’t stay for lunch with colleagues. Convincing excuses serve as a cover so as not to bother anyone with your emotional condition.

People with depression can interpret a surrounding reality in a different way. They can agree with everyone, stop expressing their opinion and desires, stop noticing insults, or not feel pain even if it’s inevitable: for example, when they lose a relative.

Being depressed, people usually complain about heart pain, tension in their hands and legs, breathing difficulties, a headache, a toothache, and other symptoms. As a rule, an examination shows that their health is fine. Various painful sensations point to an unstable condition. In turn, pain causes anxiety and tension, forming a vicious circle and making a person suffer from psychosomatic pain.

In a depressed state, people obsess over certain things. They’re sure that they are searching for answers, but such obsessive thoughts can’t solve their problems. On the contrary, they create the illusion that they are trying to find an answer. It’s easy to notice that your relative or friend suffers from obsessive thoughts: a person is rather brooding, absentminded, speaks about one and the same problem, and doesn’t try to act instead of speaking. We can remember an example from Limitless. Bradley Cooper’s hero was obsessed with thoughts about writing a book and possible success. He plunged into apathy and stress, losing his relatives and friends one by one.

A depressed state affects a person’s appearance. If a person stops following the rules of hygiene and doesn’t keep their home clean, you have reason to wonder whether everything is OK or not. This applies to people who never used to have problems with neatness.

This is also a bad signal. A person can’t cope with everyday routine tasks, forgets information, often gets tired, and feels a senselessness in their actions. It also can be the opposite, when rather inactive people become workaholics with a tense schedule, trying to collect their achievements. They are trying to escape from their feelings and bring some sense to their life.

People often try to hide their depression behind a positive mood. And, as a rule, they really look like the happiest and most carefree people in the world. They avoid serious conversations and laugh off difficult topics. You can understand and help them only during a long and trusting talk.